Less Conflict,

More Hope

I’ve been there.

I know the paralyzing fear that comes with the decision to divorce.

The guilt and shame of a failed* marriage. Family sharing their unsolicited advice (“not helpful, thanks though”). Friends taking sides, or just plain not knowing what to do.

To learn more about my story (if that’s important to you, if not skip right ahead!) check out my About page.

Because of this personal experience, and my education/professional knowledge, I know what works. I know what doesn’t work. I know what I didn’t have back then but desperately needed.

I’ve walked my private coaching clients through this process for the past four years—it’s a privilege to witness their success.

And it will also be to witness yours.

*Failed marriage = NO SUCH FU#KING THING

Private Co-Parenting Coaching

What you’ll learn:

  • What your shared goals are as parents.

  • How to transition from spouse to co-parent (this takes time and several important steps to be successful).

  • How to negotiate and make fair (not always equal) decisions that will benefit your child.

  • How to talk to your child about the divorce, as well as their teachers, friends and family. (scripts and templates included).

  • What are reasonable expectations of your co-parent and what you might need to let go of.

  • When to text vs. phone call vs. email vs. in person for the best communication outcomes.

  • What the new boundaries are (suggested list of boundaries provided—we’ll go through it together so you can choose what works best for you.)

  • How to answer ongoing questions from your child and how to overcome common co-parenting roadblocks.

  • And lots lots lots more.

What you get:

  • Weekly 90-minute Sessions: We’ll meet (both parents*) every other week, and then individually once a month. *If only one parent is participating, we’ll meet four times a month.

  • Phone + Text Support Between Sessions: Because conflict doesn’t just happen once a week during your appointment.

  • Access to a Professionally Educated and Personally Experienced Coach: Master's level Marriage and Family Counselor and ICF Coach. Happily co-parenting three young children.

  • Templates for Difficult Conversations: Setting boundaries, “what to say when…”, and more. You get to own and dictate your story.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, MA, MFT

“There is one variable that determines more than any other how well children function after divorce and that’s parents’ conflict.

I would say that the most profound finding on divorce in the past four decades is that parents' conflict is more important than divorce per se in predicting how well children function.

It’s not so much about the divorce but about how parents relate to each other.”

Tamara D. Afifi, Professor at UC Santa Barbara, from her Ted-X UCSB talk: “The Impact of Divorce on Children.”

Why it matters

Success Stories: Client Testimonials

  • From Angry Exes to Co-Parenting Pros

    We both wanted to put our children in the center, but we were so angry it felt impossible to achieve. After a lot of ups and downs, we finally found a rhythm. Today we are very proud of how we are co-parenting - there's no way we could have gotten here without Julia’s help.

    Ryan P.

  • Julia's Positive Impact on My Family

    Julia has been amazing and vital to my understanding and growth. Her unique experience, empathy, and honesty in our situation has been instrumental for me, my wife, and my family.

    Pat R.

  • Going from Chaos to Clarity

    The way Julia can lead me from chaos to clarity in my brain is unlike any other therapist experience I've had. I always leave our sessions feeling stronger in my heart and mind.

    Andrea H.

Three Steps to Start Co-Parenting Peacefully

  • Book a free consultation call and share your roadblocks and goals (and I'll do my happy leaf dance for you).

  • Learn how to co-parent with less conflict for your child

  • Watch your child (and yourself) start to adjust and thrive

Book Your Call Now